“Fill your life with love. But you will say, ‘We always love.’ And I tell you, you rarely love. You might be longing for love…and there is a vast difference between the two. To love and to need love are two very different things. Most of us remain like children all our lives because everyone is looking for love. To love is a very mysterious thing; too long for love is a very childish thing. Small children want love; when the mother gives them the love they grow. They want love from others also and the family loves them. Then when they grow older, if they are husbands they want love from their wives, if they are wives they want love from their husbands.
“And whoever wants love suffers because love cannot be asked for, love can only be given. In wanting there is no certainty that you will get it. And if the person from whom you expect love also expects love from you, it is a problem. It will be like two beggars meeting and begging together. All over the world, there are marital problems between husbands and wives, and the only reason for this is that both expect love from each other but are unable to give love.
“Think about this a little – your constant need for love. You want someone to love you, and if someone loves you-you feels good. But what you don’t know is that the other loves you only because he wants you to love him. It is just like someone throwing bait to fish: he does not throw it for the fish to eat, he throws it to catch the fish. He does not want to give it to the fish; he
only does it because he wants the fish. All the people that you see in love around you are only throwing bait to get love. They will throw the bait for a while until the other person starts feeling that there is a possibility of getting love from this person. Then he too will start showing
some love until eventually, they realize that both of them are beggars. They have made a mistake: each had thought the other was an emperor. And in time each one realizes that he is not getting any love from the other, and that’s when the friction starts.